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Signs She Doesn’t Want To Be In A Relationship With You

Signs she doesn't want a relationship with you


When you notice some signs that interprets she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, what do you do?

Signs she's not interested in having a relationship with you

Sometimes it can be quite complicated to know a girl who doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you because of how you two go about.
How do you figure it out yourself and move on with your life?

I made a list of signs to show you she isn’t interested in a relationship which includes the following.


When a girlfriend zone you, no matter how much you try to convince her she will always see you as just a friend.
You might have passionate love feelings for her but if she sees you as just a friend she doesn’t hide it.

She might tell you on different occasions that she likes you as just friends and nothing much, if you want to be in a relationship it wouldn’t be her. Just look for love somewhere else.

You two might seem like a perfect couple but immediately she sees someone she likes, she instantly tells you to your face that she only sees you as a friend and that’s it.
Friend zoning can be so heartbreaking because it always has to do with someone whom you love so much.


The truth is if a girl likes you and wants to be in a relationship with you she never ignores your calls no matter how busy she is.
But on the other hand, if she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, she might see your calls and simply shift the phone aside.
She might see you coming from afar and decide to pass another route just to make sure you don’t see her.

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Just so you know, as long as she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you and maybe you have been giving her signs to notice you, she will find excuses to hang out with you.
Girls don’t like it when you pose to be in a relationship with them when in actual reality she must have told you she’s not interested.

A lot of guys have the habit of claiming to be in a relationship with a girl they like just to be given much respect when they are with their friends.
Some girls who have a heads up about these habits rather choose to find excuses not to hang out with them.


Whenever you ask her why she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you and her reply ends with ” No it’s not you but me” just have it in mind that she doesn’t want you.

You realize you haven’t done anything contrary but she keeps saying the same thing. Or when she tells you that ” you deserve someone better” probably she doesn’t see a future with you that’s why.

How to convince a girl who doesn’t want a relationship with you.

Most times there’s no reason to waste your time trying to convince a girl to be with you. It would make you look desperate.

But if the love is very strong and you plan a very good and wonderful future with her, here’s how to convince her to be in a relationship with you.

1. Support her in all she does, emotionally, physically and psychologically.

Dating a girl isn’t just for passing away time, it means you see some unique features in her and want her for life.

If she’s showing you any sign or displaying signs that she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, all you need to do is always be there to support her.

Girls love men who are willing to make their problems their headaches.
It will convince her you will be there for her in the long run.

2. Talk to her friends or family to convince her on your behalf.

If you’re close enough with her family or friends, tell them how you feel about the girl and ask them to talk to her on your behalf.

3. See her family like yours.

Some signs would help pave way for you if she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.

For instance, if the family is like your own, she feels safe because her people know you and trust you too.

4. Don’t ever break her trust.

A girl who doesn’t want a relationship with you might be the one who doesn’t trust you.

Don’t ever give her any reason to doubt you. For example, she might not trust you if you’re a flirt and you love hanging around with different women.

Count your teeth with your tongue and be responsible.

Signs she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you over text.

There are some times you will think you’ve won her heart and she suddenly sends you a text. Some of this text would tell you what you’re in for.


  1. Hmmm I like you, but just as a friend.
  2. Don’t worry you will find someone who will love you wholeheartedly.
  3. I’m not ready but God will make a way for you.
  4. The future is bright, but you’re actually on my dark side.
  5. I have someone I’m dating so I wouldn’t want to double date.
  6. I only see us as just friends and nothing much.
  7. I’m not the one for you, the future holds better things for you.
  8. Don’t be deceived by our conversations, I don’t believe in love.
  9. Right now being in a relationship with you isn’t part of my plans, I have better things to worry about.

Signs she wants a serious relationship with you.

Now for those who already have a relationship going on, there are signs your girlfriend wants more than just dating.

Most guys wait for years before asking a girl to marry them, but what if she is ready to settle down?

The 5 signs she’s ready for a serious relationship include.

  1. Sometimes she’ll wants to meet your family and spend time with them. And she might always inquire when you’re taking her to meet your people.
  2. She asks you when you’re putting a ring on her fingers. Occasionally, during her birthdays she will feel disappointed when you present a gift to her and it’s not a ring. Those are clues she wants a serious relationship.
  3. She loves it when you call her wifey. The smile on her face whenever you call her your wife is always clear she wants to the next train with you.
  4. You’ll notice she’d act like a housewife whenever she comes to your place. She does chores like cooking, cleaning, washing, and other stuff a housewife would do.
  5. You’ll also notice how she talks about the number of children you two will have together. She’s always happy to argue about how many kids you two would have just so it would ring a bell in your ear that she wants a serious relationship with you. But without those signs, just have it in mind she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.


1. Show her Affection

In a case where she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, all you need to do is show her Affection, just don’t mind those signs.
She might be passing through a lot and love might not be included in her journal. But if after all said and done she still doesn’t open up to you try the number 15 explanation.

2. Buy her presents

Gifts have a way of making someone’s heart melt. She might be uptight with you and probably not interested in a relationship get her gifts you know she might need.
Don’t see her as a gold digger, you’re rather doing all that because you are in love with her.
Giving gifts doesn’t mean they are after the gift, but because you feel the need to surprise them with something they want.

3. Take her out and spoil her (make her feel special)

You can ask her to accompany you to the mall to shop and you two do the shopping together.
Ask her to pick things she likes. You can also go to the zoo or an amusement park.
Shoot your shots and you might be lucky she changes her mind and agree to date you.

4. Don’t fake things with her

You wouldn’t want someone to fake their lifestyle around so right? So don’t do the same around her.
If she likes you enough to fall in love with you, no matter what your occupation is, where you live, what you wear and family you come from she will accept you.
There’s a saying that you shouldn’t someone w completes you but finds that person who accepts you completely.

5. Be sincere to her as to yourself

If you want to make her fall for your charms avoid lying to her.
If you lie to her today, what happens when she finds out in the future.? She might still not want to be in a relationship with you if you are a liar.

You need to know what you really want from her, either a long-term relationship or short-term. She must have seen some signs of a player in you that’s why she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.

See some : Signs to notice when a girl likes you

6. Help her financially if you can

What do you think is the reason why she doesn’t fall in love with you? Why is she not interested in having a relationship with you.?
If she’s the breadwinner in her family, she might not want a distraction from any angle.
Being in a relationship means being loyal and committed.
If you can assist her with some financial problems then you shouldn’t hesitate.

7. Make her feel safe around you

The feeling that you are safe around whom you’re dating is enough to scream out to the world because someone got your back.
Protect her when she’s being bullied by people. Be her guardian angel in human form.

8. Don’t be shy to introduce her to your friends

If she’s hanging out with you and your friends, don’t let them ask you she is. Introduce her to your guys as romantic as you can.

9. Always make time for her

You might have busy schedules, but if you want her in your life you will find time to be with her.
Create time from work to come to see her, get her lunch or dinner depending on how busy you might be.
Try to call or text her at intervals to know what she’s doing. After talking on the phone, let her hang up the call.

10. Try to always compliment her looks

Sometimes she might go the extra mile to look beautiful.
Try to always compliment her looks as sincere and romantic as possible.
You can say
” Wow babe you look so hot today”
” Your beauty makes my heart beats so fast”
” God bless the day you were created, angels would surely miss you in heaven”
“You’re so perfect and I don’t want to stop loving you”.

11. Always remind her you’re there for her

She might have bad days, sad moments, and especially when she’s on her monthly periods.
Always assure her you will be there for her when she needs you.

12. Take her out on a date

During a cool evening, you can take her on a date night, grab food together or go watch a movie.

13. Assure her your love for her will never fade

She might not be in a relationship with you yet but always assure her your love will never fade.
That assurance alone is enough to fall in love with you.

14. Give her space if she demands

Listen up okay, if you try all these tips and it isn’t working, the best thing to do is give her some space.
Let her know what she wants because you might not be the only one try to get her heart but might be the lucky one if she makes up her mind.
Bugging her would only make her irritated and uninterested in you.

15. Be patient with her.

Maybe you have been doing more than I mentioned here and it seems nothing good is coming out of your effort, try to be patient with her. Nothing good comes easy.
Exercise patient with her, you might be surprised you won’t see those signs that tell you she doesn’t want to be in a relationship.
Like an eagle, be slow and steady if you want to win her heart.